Too many people these days depend on whether or not theyíre in a relationship to decide if theyíre happy or not. This is one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make for both yourself and the future of your relationship. Youíll find out rather quickly that if you rely on the actions of your partner to ďmakeĒ you happy that your emotions will stay in constant movement much like riding a roller coaster.
Couples in successful relationships understand this concept. They donít depend on each other for their own personal happiness. Instead, each of them do things that they enjoy and makes them happy independently of each other. This is the key to true personal happiness. Do what you like and get involved in things that make you feel good and energetic. Donít expect your partner to figure out how to keep you happy. That never works out.
Granted, if you and your partner arenít happy being together, or one of you has done something to damage the relationship, itís no surprise that youíll feel unhappy about this. However, itís the event thatís made you sad or angry, not your partner. Your partner isnít a mind reader and cannot tell exactly what they need to be doing at all times so that youíll never be unhappy. Thatís not realistic and people that hook up with someone just because they believe this is what will give them the happiness that theyíve been missing out on will be sorely disappointed.
Couples that are independently happy typically end up making each other happy as partners. Neither of them has anything to prove and simply donít spend a lot of time sitting around questioning whether or not theyíve making their partner happy. They just enjoy feeling happy and let things take their natural course. Thatís the way to keep your relationship moving in the right direction.
Someone thatís so emotional that they take every little comment their partner makes to heart is never going to be completely happy. These are the people that are continuously waiting for their partner to notice things such as a new hairstyle or outfit. When the partner doesnít immediately acknowledge the change, itís blown all out of proportion. Give your partner time to assess the new you and make the appropriate comments.
Stop assuming things regarding your partner. Even though both of you have a lot in common, youíre not always going to move totally in synch with each other. Give your partner room to breathe and accept it when they grant you the same. Itís healthy to lead a life outside of the relationship as long as itís not interfering with the core of the relationship. Youíre the only one that can make you happy. Sure, you can say that youíre happy to be with someone, or even that your partner makes you happy. However, what that doesnít mean is that youíre totally depending on your partner to keep the happiness alive within you. Make yourself happy and the rest will all fall right into place.